Top 4 Technology Trends Americans Prefer

Technology impacts people every day. Throughout history, technology has continually changed the way people live their lives, are entertained, are able to work and are able to do many other things. The list of technological changes is long and varied. The one thing that is consistent when it comes to technology is that it will continue to change and that there will always be trends that are popular.

In the United States, technology is readily available to everyone. Because of that, it is worth paying attention to the top technology trends that are going on. That information can serve businesses and individuals. It can also help people understand what is going on around them and how technology is involved with much of what is changing culturally.

It is a good idea for people to know what the trends are. For anyone that is looking to find out about this, here are four technology trends that Americans seem to prefer.

Going Mobile

The first computer was the size of a small office building. Today’s computer devices can be as small as a watch. Combined with the technology for batteries that allows these devices to work longer without being plugged in, people are able to take their computers and get mobile. They can enjoy their favorite shows, videos, music and much more anywhere they want. The younger generation no longer has to wait until Saturday night to watch the shows they like on the one television in the home. Instead, they can watch it alone or with others on whatever device they have available at the moment.

Computers

Computers may not be considered a new technology trend, but the way that Americans are using them is a technology trend worth watching. The idea of live TV streaming and the ability to use a variety of computer devices has changed the way that people get their entertainment. It has given the control of what people want to watch, when they want to watch it, where they want to watch it and what they watch it on to the people. Computers and the use of videos have allowed people to get information and to enjoy video entertainment more than ever before. It has also given people access to content they would never have gotten in the past

Connecting

The statistics show that more people are acquiring smartphones every day. This technology has changed the way people view the world in many ways. The biggest advantage of smartphones is their ability to connect people easily and quickly. A person can use their smartphone to record images, to send messages to check out social media and much more. They can share all of the things on their smartphones with people around the world. This means that information can be spread around the world in a very short time. It has changed the way that people do things and the way that businesses work. The spread of information through the internetmeans that good and bad information will reach people rapidly and that there is not as much time to react to this information as there was in the past.

Tablet use is growing

While smartphones are very popular, the use of tablet computers is growing rapidly. Tablets can give people the same computing power that they are used to with their laptop or desktop computer. It can give the user a device that is easier to take with them and that lasts longer between charges. It also allows people to use apps to find what they want, quickly and on the go The market for different apps and how they are used is growing. Companies are making a lot of money from gaming apps,live TV streaming apps, financial apps and much more. It is possible for the users of tablets to get what they want with the touch of the app on their screen.

From this list of trending technology in America, one thing should become clear. The technology that drives the train is computers and the internet. This technology will continue to change as more people learn about the power of cloud computing and as computer devices become even more powerful. More people are going to turn to online TV and streaming videos for information and entertainment and the makers of these devices will continue to find ways to make that happen. It could be through the current devices or through the apps that provide the streaming videos.

It should not surprise anyone to know that technology is changing and that computers are behind many of the changes. If you have any thoughts or ideas, please take the time to share them with us.

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10 Mistakes That Guys Do When They Buy An Engagement Ring

When you are in love with the woman of your dreams, and you are ready to ask her to marry you, it is important that you do it right. This means not only do you need to plan out the perfect proposal, but you also need to find the perfect engagement ring.

Many men tend to make the same mistakes when buying engagement rings. Here are 10 of the top mistakes for you to avoid making in order to impress your future bride.

1. Making a Rushed Purchase

Reading through 100 reviews on your next $2,000 laptop, but only spending 2 minutes for your $5,000 engagement ring? Don’t just go out and get any nice ring, you need to take your time to make sure that you have picked out the perfect engagement ring. Make sure that you shop around, and see what the various jewelers, both online and brick and mortar stores have to offer.

2. Create Your Own Engagement Ring

Custom-made doesn’t necessarily mean ultra-expensive. In fact, you may be able to spend less money, and get a much nicer ring than you would find in a jewelry store. However, a custom-made ring is most likely to be non-refundable. A brief online search will allow you to uncover a large variety of styles, carats and settings so it will be special for sure.

3. Not Setting a Budget

You need to have a budget in place before you start shopping for an engagement ring. Otherwise, you could end up spending a lot more than you can afford. When you set a budget, you will only be looking at rings that are within an affordable price range.

4. Only Shopping in Chain Stores

Chain stores all seem to have the same pieces. If your future fiancée is unique, her engagement ring should be as well. Look for rings that aren’t mass produced.

5. Not Talking to a Specialist

This is a person who can help you choose the perfect diamond for the engagement ring. This is a person who specializes in diamonds, and they know what they are talking about.

6. Falling for Biased Review Sites

You may think that you have found the perfect engagement ring from an online seller. So, you check out reviews of the ring, and the seller, and see a lot of rave reviews. How do you know if they are real? “Authentic reviews are usually long reviews with a lot of emotions,” says Goya Berg, the founder of DiamondsPeaceArmy.com, an unbiased diamond review site. Berg recommends picking a loyal forum or website and paying attention for multiple comments.

7. Only Researching Online

You don’t always get accurate information online, especially when someone is trying to sell you something. Look at engagement rings in stores and get some prices before doing any online research, so you can compare rings and prices.

8. Not Telling Your Girlfriend’s Best Friend

Your fiancée is going to be wearing this ring for the rest of her life, so it only stands to reason that you should involve her best friend in the purchase. Simply find out what she likes, her ring size, etc. so you can find a ring that she will love. You can even get her to pick out a few different styles so you have some examples to choose from.

9. Not Researching Diamonds

You don’t need to take a course in gemology, but you should learn a bit about diamonds, such as how they are rated. That way, you will know if you are being charged too much for a ring. Learn about the four C’s: cut, color, clarity, and carat.

10. Only Shopping in Department Stores

While the bright lights in department stores can make the jewelry they sell look shiny and pretty, it is usually of inferior quality. Sure, you may get a great deal, but how great is it when the ring is just something that was mass produced, and poorly at that?

Final Conclusion

Research, check the return policy, make a budget, don’t fall for fake reviews and beware of discounts!

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12 Invaluable Lessons Married People Want The Unmarried To Know

During my wedding shower, my brides-maids set up an advice jar for me to keep handy after my fiance and I were married. There were tons of pieces of advice, some were funny (like always keep beer in the fridge) and some were more serious, given in the hopes of helping our marriage survive. Now that I’m married, I find myself sharing these same words, and my own lessons that I’ve learned, with friends and family who are engaged, hoping to help share advice that can help their marriages be strong. In a world where divorce is unfortunately all too common, advice from people who are married is never anything to roll your eyes about, it could just help save a marriage.

So here are 12 things married people want the world to know:

1. Never stop dating your spouse

A few months after my husband and I married, I surprised him by sending flirty and funny texts, and asked him out on a date. We spent the whole night pretending to be on our first date and at the end it made us feel rejuvenated and more connected. This lessons is as old as time but it’s always completely true. Once you stop dating your spouse, some of the magic fades away. Keep taking each other on dates, either planned or spontaneous, and it will help keep the romance alive!

2. Some fights aren’t worth it

It drives me crazy when his shavings are left on the bathroom sink. I used to get on his case about it constantly until I realized, it took more time and energy to fight with him about it, than it did for me to take a tissue and wipe it up quickly. Sometimes you are going to feel completely annoyed at something your spouse said or did and you’re going to want to explode. But before you do, think about if it’s worth the fight. Sometimes, it is better for both of you to take a deep breath and consider if the silly annoyance is really worth the fight.

3. But if you don’t talk at all the problem will never go away

My husband can tend to be a workaholic, and it can really create some tensions between us when I’m expecting him home or when his work interrupts our weekends. In a marriage, there will be silly problems that aren’t worth the fight, but there will also be problems that need to be talked out. When I voiced my concerns about work coming in-between us, my husband was willing to work with me in setting up some work boundaries – such as no calls during dinner. But if we hadn’t communicated, then the problem would have persisted until it became too big for us to handle.

4. Take turns doing chores

Because I’m the better cook, I used to do all the cooking. And because I can’t stand picking up dog poop (iew) my husband always used to be in charge of that. We thought it made sense to split up the household work that way. But what it actually did was cause us to get frustrated with each other, secretly wondering why we had to keep doing the same thing all the time and our spouse wasn’t helping. I still mostly do the cooking and he mostly pick up after the dogs, but we’re more willing to take turns, and share the marriage responsibilities so that neither of us becomes frustrated with the tasks.

5. Use please and thank you

One time, after we were married, I asked my husband to do something quickly. I thought I said please, he insisted he didn’t hear my say it, so he felt as though I was commanding him to do something while I thought I was asking. We don’t know who was actually right, but his frustration turned into a fight and we realized how important it is, especially after you are married to continue to use manners with each other. You never want to make your spouse feel as though they are being taken for granted or unappreciated. Using manners ensures that they know you are thankful for what they do for you.

6. There is no greater feeling than sharing a bed with your spouse

One of my absolute favorite moments of the day is that moment when I wake up before the craziness of the day begins, I lie in bed and think of how lucky I am to be married to such a wonderful man. Starting your day and finishing your day with your favorite person is a luxury in life that is not to be taken for granted. Unfortunately, you never truly know how long you have on this earth together, so savor the realization that every day begins and ends with the one you love.

7. Sometimes you don’t like your spouse

Once when I was watching an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond, character Marie Barone gave some of the best marriage advice I’ve ever heard, and I’ve believed it fully ever since she said it. “There’s going to be hate. Hate is real. Marriage is real. We might fight, but…we’re okay with each other. And do you know why? We’ve endured.” Married life is real, every emotion you feel is real. You’ll love each other more than you could ever know is possible, and you’ll hate each other sometimes too. But you work through all the positives and negatives together and together, through all of the emotions, you will endure.

8. Continue to make yourself attractive

I had to have surgery a few short months before my wedding, and unfortunately again less than a year after I was married. In the meantime, working out was very difficult and I was able to do very little. As a previous dancer, working out is very important to me and keeping my body toned made me feel healthy and attractive. Losing that ability took a very large toll on how I viewed myself and how I thought my husband viewed me as well. I worried about him finding someone else who was more attractive. I learned that “letting myself go” just because I’m married simply isn’t an option. Working out and dolling myself up once in a while gives me more confidence and I feel sexy. While my husband has always found me attractive, confidence IS sexy and my husband sees that in me too.

9. Keep the intimacy alive

I’ve found that it is natural, after time, to have those burning fires of love cool. What used to be a “Netflix and chill” kind of night slowly turns into actually watching Netflix and eating ice cream. While this is a beautiful part of being married, it can also be a little dangerous. You need to make sure that those fires of love keep burning by stealing kisses, lighting candles, and making an effort to turn off the Netflix and head to the bedroom! If the intimacy falls away, either one of you may be tempted to go find it somewhere else.

10. Let them do their own thing

I love spending as much time as I can with my husband. Weekends are the best days for my because I get a whole two days of quality husband time, even if it is just running errands. But you need to make room for your spouse to do their own thing and for you to do yours. As much as I love spending time with my husband, I also enjoy reading and writing and love taking time for myself to do that. He loves playing his guitar and watching Sunday football, and I wouldn’t want to take that away from him. He needs his space just like I need mine. Just because we are married doesn’t mean we have to have all the same hobbies or likes. Give each other space to be who you are and it will make everything more interesting!

11. Don’t forget why you married them

Every day when I’m talking to my husband, I’m reminded of what a great person and husband he is and I smile as I think about all the amazing reasons why I married him. I do this especially on my hardest days. In the hustle and bustle of life, spouses sometimes forget why they married each other in the first place. Don’t! It’s so important when things get crazy, to keep in mind all of the great qualities you married your spouse for. If you keep these things in mind, you can keep your relationship strong with the knowledge of all the things you love about your spouse.

12. Your spouse will be your everything

As soon as my engagement ring was placed on my finger, I knew that not only did our relationship status change, but his place in my life had changed. I knew he’d be my best friend, my number one cheerleader, my adviser, and my business partner. In every aspect of my life he was going to be there to be my partner and help me make major life decisions. Your spouse isn’t just your spouse, they become your everything.

Being married comes with many lessons of life and relationships. No matter how long you’re married, you continue learning. There will be mistakes, celebrations, hard times, and pure joy. But being married isn’t an ending where you live happily ever after, it’s a never ending journey that you take together.

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Diamond Quality Factors

One of the first things most people learn about diamonds is that not all diamonds are created equal. In fact, every diamond is unique. Diamonds come in many sizes, shapes, colors, and with various internal characteristics.

All polished diamonds are valuable. That value is based on a combination of factors. Rarity is one of those factors. Diamonds with certain qualities are more rare—and more valuable—than diamonds that lack them.

Jewelry professionals use a systematic way to evaluate and discuss these factors. Otherwise, there would be no way to compare one diamond to another. And there would be no way to evaluate and discuss the qualities of an individual diamond. Diamond professionals use the grading system developed by GIA in the 1950s, which established the use of four important factors to describe and classify diamonds: Clarity, Color, Cut, and Carat Weight.

These are known as the Four Cs. When used together, they describe the quality of a finished diamond. The value of a finished diamond is based on this combination.

A diamond’s value is often affected by the rarity of one or more of the Four Cs. Colorless diamonds are scarce—most diamonds have tints of yellow or brown. So a colorless diamond rates higher on the color grading scale than a diamond that is light yellow. Value and rarity are related: In this case a colorless diamond is more rare and more valuable than one with a slight yellow color. The same relationship between rarity and value exists for clarity, cut, and carat weight.

The Four Cs describe the individual qualities of a diamond, and the value of an individual diamond is based on these qualities. The terms that people use to discuss the Four Cs have become part of an international language that jewelry professionals can use to describe and evaluate individual diamonds.

Today, the descriptions of each of the Four Cs are more precise than those applied to almost any other consumer product. And they have a long history. Three of them—color, clarity, and carat weight—were the basis for the first diamond grading system established in India over 2,000 years ago.

Color
Subtle differences in color can dramatically af­fect diamond value. Two diamonds of the same clarity, weight, and cut can differ in value based on color alone. Even the slightest hint of color can make a dramatic difference in value.

Diamonds come in many colors. Diamonds that range from colorless to light yellow and brown fall within the normal color range. Within that range, colorless diamonds are the most rare, so they’re the most valuable. They set the standard for grading and pricing other diamonds in the normal color range.

At the GIA Laboratory, diamonds are color graded under controlled conditions by comparing them to round brilliant diamonds of known color, called masterstones.

The GIA D-to-Z scale is the industry standard for color-grading diamonds. Each letter represents a range of color based on a diamond's tone and saturation.

The GIA D-to-Z scale is the industry standard for color-grading diamonds. Each letter represents a range of color based on a diamond’s tone and saturation.

Many diamonds emit a visible light called fluorescence when they’re exposed to ultraviolet (UV) radiation. Although invisible to the human eye, UV radiation is everywhere. Sunlight contains it. Fluorescent lights emit it, too. Under the right conditions, you can see fluorescence in about 35 percent of gem diamonds.

Blue is the most common fluorescent color in gem-quality diamonds. In rare instances, fluorescence can be white, yellow, orange, or many other colors.

Strong blue fluorescence can make a light yellow diamond look closer to colorless in sunlight. Blue and yellow are color opposites and tend to cancel each other out, so blue fluorescence masks the yellow color. If the fluorescence is too strong it can make the stone look cloudy or “oily,” which can lower the value of the diamond. 

Clarity
Few things in nature are absolutely perfect. This is as true of diamonds as anything else. Diamonds have internal features, called inclusions, and surface irregularities, called blemishes. Together, they’re called clarity characteristics. Clarity is the relative absence of inclusions and blemishes.

Among other things, blemishes include scratches and nicks on a diamond’s surface. Inclusions are generally on the inside, and some might break the surface of the stone. Sometimes, tiny diamond or other mineral crystals are trapped inside a diamond when it forms. Depending on where they’re located, they might remain after the stone has been cut and polished, and they can affect a diamond’s appearance.

Clarity characteristics might have a negative influence on a diamond’s value, but they can have positive effects as well. For one thing, they help gemologists separate diamond from imitations. (This is easier with included diamonds than with flawless ones.) And because no two diamonds have exactly the same inclusions, they can help identify individual stones. They can also provide scientists with valuable information about how diamonds form.


Like the rest of the Four Cs, clarity’s influence on value is directly related to the concept of rarity. Flawless is the top grade in the GIA Clarity Grading System. Diamonds graded Flawless don’t have visible inclusions or blemishes when examined under 10-power (10X) magnification by a skilled and experienced grader.

Flawless diamonds are very rare—so rare, in fact, that it’s possible to spend a lifetime in the jewelry industry without ever seeing one, and they command top prices.

At the other end of the scale are diamonds with inclusions that can be easily seen by the unaided eye. Between the two extremes are diamonds with inclusions visible only under 10X magnification. Stones in the middle range make up the bulk of the retail market.

There are 11 clarity grades in the GIA clarity grading system. They are Flawless, Internally Flawless, two categories of Very, Very Slightly Included, two categories of Slightly Included, and three categories of Included.

The effect of a clarity characteristic on the clarity grade is based on its size, number, position, nature, and color or relief.

The GIA clarity scale includes eleven diamond clarity grades. The scale narrows at the top because there are very few diamonds in the higher clarity grades.

Sometimes, one factor makes more difference to the clarity grade than the others. But it’s not always the same one. The relative importance of each factor varies from diamond to diamond. For example, an inclusion off to the side of a stone would have less impact on clarity than the same size inclusion located directly under the table. In this case, the position is probably the determining factor.

A clarity characteristic's effect on a diamond's clarity grade is determined by five factors: size, number, position, nature, and color or relief. - Gary Roskin GG, FGA

Occasionally, if an inclusion has the potential to cause damage to a stone, it can affect the grade. But this is rare, and usually applies only to Included (“I”) diamonds.

Diamond professionals use a set of terms that originally included very very slightly imperfect, very slightly imperfect, slightly imperfect, and imperfect. In recent years, the term imperfect has been replaced with included. (GIA uses included in its clarity grading system.)

These terms were shortened to the initials VVS, VS, SI, and I. The abbreviations eventually gained acceptance throughout the international diamond community. Their use is now widespread regardless of how the words they stand for translate into various languages. Very may translate totres in French, for instance, but in France a very slightly included diamond is still a VS. Even a country like Russia, with a completely different alphabet, uses the same abbreviations.

Cut
A beautifully finished diamond is dazzling, with every facet displaying the craftsman’s skill and care. When a diamond interacts with light, every angle and every facet affects the amount of light returned to the eye. This is what gives it its face-up appearance.

In efforts to differentiate themselves, and because of increasing demand for precision in cutting, many manufacturers fashioned diamonds to exacting standards throughout the decade. Note the precise arrow pattern in this 1.54 ct diamond.

A diamond’s proportions determine how light performs when it enters the diamond. If light enters through the crown and goes out through the pavilion, the diamond will look dark and unattractive.  Diamonds with different proportions and good polish make better use of the light, and will be bright, colorful, and scintillating.

A well-cut diamond displays the beauty consumers expect to see in a diamond.

A beautiful diamond looks the way it does because of three optical effects: white light reflections called brightness, flashes of color called fire, and areas of light and dark called scintillation. Pattern is the relative size, arrangement, and contrast of bright and dark areas that result from a diamond’s internal and external reflections. There must be enough contrast between the bright and dark areas to give the pattern a crisp, sharp look.

The diamond industry has long known that some proportion combinations make light perform better than others. In recent years, however, scientists and researchers in GIA’s Research Department and the GIA Laboratory have shown that there are many variations and combinations of proportions that will maximize brilliance and fire in round brilliant cut diamonds.  

As a general rule, the higher the cut grade, the brighter the diamond. Under fluorescent lighting, these diamonds (left to right) display high, moderate, and low brightness.

The term “cut” also can describe a fashioned diamond’s shape. Shapes other than the standard round brilliant are called fancy cuts. They’re sometimes called fancy shapes or fancies. Fancy shapes also have names of their own, based on their shapes. The best known are the marquise, princess, pear, oval, heart, and emerald cut.

Fancy-shape diamonds, along with the classic round diamonds, are popular choices for today’s jewelry consumer. - Courtesy Lazare Kaplan Diamonds

Carat Weight
Many goods are sold by weight—by the kilogram, ounce, pound, or ton. Even people who have never bought a diamond are used to the idea that weight and price are related. They understand that a larger diamond is probably more valuable than a smaller one. But there are two things that often surprise people when they start learning about diamonds and carat weight.

The first is the precision with which diamonds are weighed. Diamond weights are stated in metric carats, abbreviated “ct.” One metric carat is two-tenths (0.2) of a gram—just over seven thousandths (0.007) of an ounce. One ounce contains almost 142 carats. A small paper clip weighs about a carat.

The metric carat is divided into 100 points. A point is one hundredth of a carat.

Diamonds are weighed to a thousandth (0.001) of a carat and then rounded to the nearest hundredth, or point. Fractions of a carat can mean price differences of hundreds—even thousands—of dollars, depending on diamond quality.

Over a carat, diamond weights are usually expressed in carats and decimals. A 1.03-carat stone, for example, would be described as “one point oh three carats,” or “one oh three.” Weights for diamonds that weigh under a carat are usually stated in points. A diamond that weighs 0.83 carat is said to weigh “eighty-three points,” or called an “eighty-three pointer.”

Large high quality diamonds are rare and valuable gems. This diamond weighs a remarkable 100.20 carats and is internally flawless. - © GIA and Harold & Erica Van Pelt, courtesy The Steinmetz Group

The relationship between rarity, weight, and value can be surprising. People know that a pound of sugar costs twice as much as a half-pound of sugar. But diamonds aren’t a commodity like sugar. Their price depends on a number of variables—weight is just one of them. So it’s not always easy to understand, or explain, why a 1-carat diamond is worth, say, $6,000, while a 2-carat diamond of similar quality might be worth $15,000.

It’s really a simple concept: Large diamonds are more rare than small diamonds. The more scarce something is, the more it is worth. So a larger stone doesn’t just cost more. It also costs more per carat. A 1-carat diamond weighs the same as four 0.25-carat diamonds. But even if all the other quality factors are equal, the larger diamond is worth much more than the sum of the four smaller diamonds.

Carat weight can also be symbolic. While the visual difference between a 0.98-carat diamond and a 1.01-carat diamond is negligible, many people will opt for the larger stone—even at a much higher price. Some weights are considered “magic sizes”: half carat, three-quarter carat, one carat, etc. There’s not much difference in their weights, but if both are D-color round brilliants with identical clarity and cut, the size makes all the difference. They really don’t look much different, but if a consumer’s heart is set on the one-carat size, the difference is enormous. The fact that the second stone is slightly over the “magic” one-carat size can give it as much as a 20 percent difference in price with only a 6-point difference in weight.

This oval shape diamond weighs 1.01 carats and made the 1.00 carat magic size range. When diamonds reach the so called magic sizes the value per carat increases. – Courtesy Lazare Kaplan Diamonds

Don’t confuse the term carat with karat. Karat is a unit of measure used to describe how much pure gold there is in an alloy.



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7 Biggest Mistakes of a Modern Society

It’s difficult to live in a modern society since it’s full of mistakes, principles and prejudices. Democratic world gives people freedom in almost all spheres of their life. People are free to behave and act the way they like. We should remember that uncontrolled democracy without morality and ethic regulation can be dangerous for people from all over the world. Nowadays, society has a blurred vision of reality. It seems to me that we’ve become blind to many obvious things and truths. We make mistakes and don’t even know about them. If we don’t correct our mistakes today, then our future generations will suffer from the consequences of our sins.

Many positive values have been replaced by negative ones. Greediness, rudeness, cruelty and indifference have become predominant values that guide the life of millions of people. I think that people should open their eyes and try to understand that it’s never late to save the situation. We should learn to value things and use humane ways to reach goals. I believe that a mistake is not a mistake, if we try to correct it and change everything for better. I hope this little article will motivate and inspire you to improve your life starting today.

1. We can’t imagine life without problems

My workmate has a habit of complaining about her problems all the time. It seems to me that this person can’t live without drama. I think that her negative outlook is the reason of her sufferings, because she notices only bad things in life. I always try to cheer her up by saying, “Don’t trouble troubles, until troubles trouble you.”

It’s easy to live without issues if you focus on positivity and have the ability to enjoy and celebrate every moment of your life. If troubles trouble you, then you should do your best to handle the situation. The main secret is to treat your failures with optimism. The biggest mistake of many people is to become disheartened and make constant struggle with problems and negativity a part of their lifestyle.

2. Many people postpone a visit to a doctor

The phrase “I have no time” is the life motto of many workaholics. They usually have no time to take care of their health, because it doesn’t fit their schedule. Other people also ignore or postpone a visit to their doctors, because they lack money. They prefer to wait until the symptoms of the illness will fade away. This is one of the biggest human mistakes people will regret later, because the consequences of total inaction can be fatal. Another reason of inaction is the fear of hospitals.

I’ve always been afraid of doctors and different hospital procedures as well. My friends’ stories about their visits to the dentist usually scared me to death. Plus I feared medical mistakes, but a bit later I took my courage in both hands and started visiting doctors. I understood that my health was my responsibility. Now I’ve already got rid of my fears. Every time I’ve problems with health, I attend the hospital. If something is wrong, I visit at least two doctors. I think it’s better to get different opinions about the problem. If they correspond, I follow the doctor’s prescriptions. If not, I continue investigating the problem.

3. It’s impossible to change yourself

Many people consider that they can’t run from themselves. But what for? Running from the problems is the choice of weak and diffident people. I’m sure that the reason of all your troubles and conflicts lies within your mind. The sooner you accept this truth, the quicker you’ll have a chance to start a new life. Theoretically and physically it’s easy to change. It’s significantly harder to dare to make confident steps and actions, because human beings are afraid of unknown.

I can state with assurance that people often underestimate their abilities. I have two friends who had changed beyond recognition in a quite short period of time. I think that people begin to change when they’re becoming sick and tired of their present lifestyle and conditions. Don’t repeat the mistakes of other people. Express and change yourself the way you want.

4. We take rudeness for strength

Rudeness is a self-defense reaction of weak people. They believe that attack is the best way to defense themselves. Rude words and actions push people away from any person. This strategy protects them both from bad and wonderful people. I think no one likes to be treated in a rude way. As a result, this negative trait of character makes you lose more than you gain.

I don’t like people who use vulgar language and behave in an impudent way. I treat rude people with compassion, because I know that only miserable people prefer to reach their goals with a help of rudeness. Their ability to hurt people’s feelings can play an Old Harry with them later, because all bad things return to its original source like a boomerang.

5. Money is everything in life

Wealth is the cherished dream of many people on this planet. They’re ready to take a sin upon their souls. Yes, money can help people make both noble deeds and bring sufferings to each other. But sometimes money corrupts people, because it gives them temporary power and superiority. Many of us can’t resist the temptations of money. It often provokes people to treat each other with contempt and disrespect.

One day, my grandmother told me a parable of the Rich Man and Lazarus. This parable is of current importance even today, because people still repeat the mistakes of their ancestors. It taught me to treat others with love and respect. Kindness and compassion should prevail over evil. I’ve realized that family, love and respect are the main values of human beings. Money is just the tool that motivates us to move on and helps to develop.

6. Everything will come in its time

Everyone knows these wise words. I believe that everything will come only if you make enough efforts to achieve desirable results. If you sit down twiddling your thumbs, you should forget once and for all about successful and happy future.

My friend says there’s no need to spoil nerves and overload yourself with work. She prefers to go with the flow and wait until a superhero or Santa Claus will make her dreams come true. I can’t admit this truth, because I’m a realist and I try to make concrete steps toward my goals.

7. Life is endless

This is the most common mistake of many people. They think that they’re immortal and their life will last forever. Unfortunately, time flies very fast. You should value every moment spent with your dearest and nearest and manage your time effectively, if you want to succeed in something. You shouldn’t forget to say right words at the right time and keep your promises. I try not to reflect deeply on this point, because I’m a bit sentimental person. I just live my life to the full and don’t let laziness prevent me from happiness.

You should be wise enough to realize that mistakes can exert both positive and negative influence on your life. Accept and admit your mistakes and you’ll be able to cognize the truth and move in right direction. What other biggest mistakes of a modern society do you know? Share your thoughts with us!

Thanks:-http://en.amerikanki.com/mistakes-modern-society/  

The next-door heroine for all seasons - The Hindu

On my wedding-eve, my father reminded me that academic brilliance by itself would have nothing much to do in real life. “You may win a gold medal in university but may not even count a copper in society,” were his words. No one can impart certain traits like getting along with people; one has to learn it all oneself. He instructed me to keep my mind open to learn from others anything that is good, and adapt it suitably for my own situation. I still cherish his words.

My new guru is my maid. Shanti is dark-complexioned, middle-aged, of medium build and average height, with lustrous eyes and a bright smile all the time. On the whole she is beautiful. Her husband, on the contrary, is fat and very ordinary looking. She has practically no use for him; except that she has had three children through him. He picks up odd jobs and gets good sums of money — that he spends immediately on drinking. He takes up no financial or physical responsibility in running the family. Shanti takes him as just another kid in the family with absolutely no complaints.

Shanti works in five houses through the day, amidst her own daily chores such as cooking, washing and shopping for day-to-day necessities. She also has to pump out buckets of water for the needs of her home from a hand-pump on the street. God knows how she brought up her two daughters and a son, gave them a decent education and conducted their marriages, all essentially by herself.

Shanti lives opposite my apartment complex and her activities are quite transparent for everyone to see. At the crack of dawn she crosses our gate with a bunch of flowers for the elderly woman staying alone in my block. She works in four houses including mine and then gallops to that of a north Indian family a little distance away. Shanti is always cheerful and happy faced wherever she is. She keeps her cool with her jovial nature and will be ready with a laugh. She gets along well with the elderly lady who constantly tests her with her nagging and probing questions, and with the working couples who chase her up all the time to finish the chores quickly. While in my house she will talk with understanding about the north Indian lady who she says would find it tough without her to prepare breakfast on time for the big family, or how the husband is managing the house downstairs without his wife who has gone home for delivery.

Such a kind soul she is, but she will turn into a devil if she spots laziness anywhere. Be it the watchman, sweeper, toilet-cleaner or civic worker, she would take him to task if he is at fault. As though she is the manager of the apartment complex, she would defend the residents and get things done with a commendable sense of duty and involvement. And a moment later, Shanti will patch up and be friendly again with the same person she was pitted against. When I ask her how she does it, she will wink.

Whether it has to do with the ration shop or the LPG supply agency or the civic body, Shanti is the spokesperson for the entire area. She knows no niceties and will call a spade a spade. Seeing her take the initiative, others in higher stations of life will get the drive and enthusiasm. Shanti never sits and broods or gets depressed. She doesn’t worry about the past, the present or the future. Both her daughters were widowed around the age of 26 and both have a child each.

Shanti stands like a pillar to all her three children. She helps raise the little ones. She got one of her widowed daughters married again, and took care of the new-born. Her husband meanwhile fell sick and was hospitalised. To cap it all, around the same time she lost her only source of support: her mother. Earning just a few thousand rupees a month, she managed all the crises. She doesn’t let personal tragedies come in the way of her work. There are no laments anywhere to evoke sympathy or extract money. She does not visit temples or godmen to cry her heart out.

Shanti is simple, uneducated and ruthless, but her clear thinking and practical outlook leaves me astounded forever. She is comrade, champion, task-master and above all a brave woman. Most men in her position would have been shattered. Shanti garners every atom of strength and stands like a heroine to my eyes.

Every time I see her, my father’s words echo inside me. He once told me: “It is not that people do not have problems. But some refuse to worry about them.” Yes, Shanti is determined to live joyfully whatever befalls her, and she has won many hearts in her own way. A woman to be celebrated indeed!

(v.ramesh1955@gmail.com)

Keywords: Shanti, women issues

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